Post by Kevin on May 16, 2012 2:34:04 GMT -5
"What to do when the hubby now ex is a police officer. You do NOT call the boys in blue because they all stick up for each other. Beware anyone married to an officer."
We know police officers are necessities and most are good but - as you noted – they are not always exempt from control issues. It could be that a larger percentage than the population average are controlling - a career offering power and authority over others could be attractive to the wrong type yielding pain to victims when power is misused.
However, police officers are not exempt from rules and some will have a (sub) criminal life – same being true of his bobby mates.
There’s a twinge of 'cult' coming through in the few words I read from you re. them sticking up for him. When this happens, i.e. others subscribe to his possibly psychotic belief that you are his source of problems, it is called Folie à plusieurs (madness of many).
Abuse generally occurs behind closed doors and on a case by case basis some control freaks are a bit sadistic (bullies) and 'get a kick' from certain things which may be sub-criminal - the closer we get to this type of person, the more likely their toes (at least) dip in the psychopathic spectrum - but these bad people manage to stay on the wrong side of prison walls and hold jobs as psychiatrists, school teachers, politicians and, of course, police officers - to name but a few.
But also victims of control-freaks are often not believed by others and worn down into a situation where the victim starts questioning their own sanity (gaslighting).
The polygraph (lie detector) is not infallible but I would recommend it used by victims for two reasons: (1) to reinforce to themselves they are not going mad and (2) to bring order to out-of-control controllers. In any case – use everything with caution – especially when dealing with serial bullies, more so when living in the same house.
While the general public would side with the testimony of a well-configured psychopath, this Evidence Statement produced (and accompanying video) calls into question the credibility of the slick-operating, highly intelligent and charismatic psychologically-violent individual. In fact, the last thing a cult-leader (such as a psychologically dysfunctional police officer and his chums) wants is to be rumbled.
A properly made polygraph Evidence Statement can find its way quite legitimately into the legal department of any current or future employer –you can choose the destiny of the controller and you therefore take control away from them.
You take any action like this you do it at your own risk and way up the consequences. Bottom line is no one person should control another but sometimes the controller needs to be brought into check – in a relationship its more difficult but I have used polygraphs to stop sub-criminal psychopath (serial bully) from continuing a reign of terror.
We know police officers are necessities and most are good but - as you noted – they are not always exempt from control issues. It could be that a larger percentage than the population average are controlling - a career offering power and authority over others could be attractive to the wrong type yielding pain to victims when power is misused.
However, police officers are not exempt from rules and some will have a (sub) criminal life – same being true of his bobby mates.
There’s a twinge of 'cult' coming through in the few words I read from you re. them sticking up for him. When this happens, i.e. others subscribe to his possibly psychotic belief that you are his source of problems, it is called Folie à plusieurs (madness of many).
Abuse generally occurs behind closed doors and on a case by case basis some control freaks are a bit sadistic (bullies) and 'get a kick' from certain things which may be sub-criminal - the closer we get to this type of person, the more likely their toes (at least) dip in the psychopathic spectrum - but these bad people manage to stay on the wrong side of prison walls and hold jobs as psychiatrists, school teachers, politicians and, of course, police officers - to name but a few.
But also victims of control-freaks are often not believed by others and worn down into a situation where the victim starts questioning their own sanity (gaslighting).
The polygraph (lie detector) is not infallible but I would recommend it used by victims for two reasons: (1) to reinforce to themselves they are not going mad and (2) to bring order to out-of-control controllers. In any case – use everything with caution – especially when dealing with serial bullies, more so when living in the same house.
While the general public would side with the testimony of a well-configured psychopath, this Evidence Statement produced (and accompanying video) calls into question the credibility of the slick-operating, highly intelligent and charismatic psychologically-violent individual. In fact, the last thing a cult-leader (such as a psychologically dysfunctional police officer and his chums) wants is to be rumbled.
A properly made polygraph Evidence Statement can find its way quite legitimately into the legal department of any current or future employer –you can choose the destiny of the controller and you therefore take control away from them.
You take any action like this you do it at your own risk and way up the consequences. Bottom line is no one person should control another but sometimes the controller needs to be brought into check – in a relationship its more difficult but I have used polygraphs to stop sub-criminal psychopath (serial bully) from continuing a reign of terror.