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Post by ConcernedAnon on Apr 29, 2011 4:10:05 GMT -5
Hi, I've just found this forum and hope someone out there can give me some advice. I'm having problems trying to get access to see my daughter. After amicably separating from her mother, everything was calm and I had access to my daughter at weekends up until a few years ago. Then I remarried and my ex-wife couldn't handle that, and her attitude changed overnight. Her response was to completely cut off contact with me. She even closed the bank account I was paying into for my daughter's maintenance.
As you can imagine this has been more than devastating for me - as anyone who has experienced the same thing will know. I'm not really sure what's been said to my daughter and that troubles me also. What if she has poisoned her against me after being so amicable before? I don't feel any anger toward my ex, I think she is dealing with the change in circumstances very badly, but as time has passed I'm thinking/hoping perhaps she will have recovered from her own dilemma and it might be possible to re-gain access with my daughter.
I am seeking some advice on how to do this without provoking another hysterical over-reaction. What would be the best approach? I don't know whether I should go in person, or send a third party, or a letter or a lawyer's letter. I don't exactly know where she is living but I have her parents address.
Many thanks for any advice.
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Post by Kevin on Apr 30, 2011 3:02:23 GMT -5
Hi
I have asked for advice from Families Need Fathers on your behalf. As soon as I get some feedback I'll be in touch.
You may wish to consider joining fnf.org.uk also. They have a forum there for people in your situation.
Best wishes and hang in there.
Kevin
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Post by Kevin on Apr 30, 2011 11:37:30 GMT -5
The first suggestion (was to join FnF!) is sending the ex an informal letter asking about your daughter and stating that it would be in her own interest to see her father again so contact is resumed.
He goes on to say for reasons of reassurance, propose meeting in a public place - such as the park with the ex in attendance.
Take things slowly to begin with and not try to force anything.
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I'll update you with new information as/if it arrives.
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